"Watch carefully, the magic that occurs, when you give a person, just enough comfort to be themselves." -- atticus
"Warriorship is so tender, without skin, without tissue, naked and raw. It is soft and gentle. You have renounced putting on a new suit of armor. You have renounced growing a thick, hard skin. You are willing to expose naked flesh, bone and marrow to the world." -- Chogyam Trungpa
"It's no use going back to yesterday, because I was a different person then."-- Lewis Carroll
"Follow your bliss." -- Joseph Campbell
"Never touch anything with half your heart."
"When we let go of self, we are more inspired to work with others, and when we are generous to others we realize the self is lost." -- Chogyam Trungpa
"Fly in the direction of feeling inspired and passionate."
"You will know you are sailing in the right direction, for you will feel the burden lifted by the wind."
"When you are your own best friend, others' will gravitate to your leadership of self."
Boys don’t cry. Girls are supposed to be nice. So, what happens when a boy feels sad or a girl feels angry? They feel confused and ashamed on top of the original emotion, which only adds to the suffering and desire to just escape the whole mess.
Without the ability to accept ourselves in all our complexity, and without the inner tools to process strong emotions, people often turn to things like drugs, alcohol, compulsive sex, gambling or shopping to dull and temporarily escape the pain.
When we have an aversion to our own emotional state, it’s as if we’re at war with our own self. As Thich Nhat Hanh says, it’s like the right hand attacking the left. There is no upside to it.
A wiser course of action is to feel what we’re feeling without reacting to it. This is mindfulness. The sense of freedom that comes from this internal shift is empowering and creates space for more happiness.
My friend hadn’t considered this as an option during a stressful relationship breakup. When I suggested it, the relief was immediate and palpable; such a profound gift that she can give herself. It made me even more passionate about sharing this simple practice with as many people as possible.
With regular practice, we can slowly but surely transform our relationship with challenges, and develop the tools and confidence to meet life head-on.
If this sounds intriguing to you, please consider joining me for a Mindfulness Teacher Training. We have frequent workshops. You’ll have 10-weeks to strengthen your own practice and, if you’d like, learn how to share with others. You can learn more here or email me if you have any questions.